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Meta Senior Manager (M2) On His Gaps to M2

Ryan Peterman β€’ 2025-12-03 β€’ 6:05 minutes β€’ YouTube

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Navigating the Transition from First-Time Manager to Manager of Managers: Key Insights and Challenges

Stepping up from being a first-time manager (M1) to managing other managers (M2) is a significant leap, filled with unique challenges that many new leaders might not anticipate. Drawing from a recent insightful conversation with an experienced leader, we explore the common skill gaps, subtle pitfalls, and the nuanced differences between individual contributor (IC) and management career growth.

The Biggest Skill Gaps When Moving from M1 to M2

One of the most critical challenges for new M2s is learning how to add credible value to the managers who report to them. Unlike managing individual contributors directly, an M2 must navigate a more complex layer of leadership where direct interaction with team members is limited or filtered through the managers they oversee.

A common misstep involves failing to understand the β€œrestrictions” or boundaries on how to interact with teams indirectly. For example, a new M2 might try to gather candid feedback by setting up skip-level meetings with their indirect reports. While well-intentioned, this can inadvertently undermine the authority of the direct manager, demotivate team members, and create friction within the leadership chain.

These small behavioral nuances β€” such as how and when to communicate with indirect reports β€” carry magnified effects in larger organizational structures. Unfortunately, many new M2s only learn these lessons through trial and error or deep introspection over time.

Why These Mistakes Happen and What to Expect

The transition from M1 to M2 is full of subtle pitfalls largely because the role requires a different mindset and skill set than managing individual contributors. Just as moving from an IC role to a first-time manager involves a steep learning curve, stepping up to managing managers comes with its own natural learning process.

Expectations are set accordingly: new M2s are likely to make mistakes early on. Leadership teams often watch closely to provide support or intervene if necessary, but much of the learning is experiential. Success in these early weeks hinges on mastering small behavioral skills like communication protocols, influence without direct authority, and strategic delegation.

Comparing Career Growth: Individual Contributor vs. Management

The conversation also touched on the perennial question: Is career growth more meritocratic for ICs or managers?

  • At senior levels, both paths become somewhat opaque. It can be difficult to attribute success directly to an individual, whether they are ICs or managers.
  • Senior ICs may "talk a big game" about their accomplishments, but evidence can be hard to discern without deep involvement.
  • Similarly, evaluating managers, especially those at higher levels, can be challenging due to the indirect nature of their impact.
  • Over time, long tenures with consistent success help clarify a leader’s effectiveness, but on a case-by-case basis, assessments can feel arbitrary or unfair.
  • This lack of clear accountability at upper management levels can be frustrating and feels less transparent compared to IC roles, where deliverables and outcomes might be more tangible.

Final Thoughts: The Reality of Leadership Growth

Leadership growth is complex and multifaceted. The jump from managing individuals to managing managers requires a careful balance of influence, trust, and strategic insight. Organizations can better support these transitions by recognizing the common pitfalls and providing guidance on the subtle behaviors that matter most.

For aspiring leaders, understanding that mistakes are part of the journey can help alleviate some of the pressure. Meanwhile, those evaluating leaders should remain aware of the inherent challenges in assessing leadership performance, especially at senior levels.


If you found these insights valuable, this discussion is part of a longer conversation available on YouTube. Feel free to join the conversation and share your thoughts β€” every comment is read and appreciated!


πŸ“ Transcript (167 entries):

So I'm curious like if we were to just imagine I took a random M1 or maybe yourself and before you were promoted and you were just a new M1 and I put you in an M2 role and you just said have at it. What are the biggest skill gaps that you would have had? So I think being able to like credibly add value to the people who are reporting to you is probably the the major one. Um I mentioned some ways at which managers have reduced or managers of managers have reduced um kind of options in terms of how they can interact with their teams. And so knowing what those restrictions are and then knowing where to exercise the most important ones uh is something that that's that's hard for like a straight M1 to to recognize. So as an example, you know, you might have a a new M1. They're feeling really good about their understanding of people. they go set up skip levels with um you know all of their indirect reports and they ask them oh you know what do you think of Jim does he say anything that you know you don't like that is he touching on all of the important career pieces and then a week later Jim's going to walk into your office and go you know you talked with Jan and you ask her a bunch of leading questions around whether I was doing my job or not and now she doesn't feel like I'm being I'm supportive enough like why did you do that and then Jan comes to you and she says, "Well, you know, I I I really think that you can help me out a lot with my career because um you know, you seem to have some really good insights that, you know, Jim wasn't able to to see." And so, in that moment, you've just disintermediated Jim. You've demotivated Jan and you've created a host of problems that you now have to solve. It's like a lot of very small things that you can do as a senior leader have these magnification effects and unfortunately you don't really learn about those or you don't learn maybe the small things um until you've either observed them yourself uh where you can kind of introspect and say all right let me think about all the interactions I've had with my senior leadership and where those worked or where they didn't um or you've got like a good mental model for how these things sort of propagate in an organization um but I Subtle mistakes like that end up being kind of like uh the easy ways for an M1 newly in that position to fail. And the expectation in a lot of cases is that they're going to make those mistakes. Just like when you transition someone from an IC to a manager, you're expecting them to make a bunch of mistakes just because it's unnatural. Nobody really knows about this. You can read it in books all you want, but until you practice it, it's a different story. And so, you know, my leadership chain when I was doing the M1 to M2 transition was probably thinking the same thing, sitting very closely with me. This is part of the promotion panel. Like, what kind of support are they going to have? Does the person who they are reporting to have enough acumen to be able to bail them out if things start to go ary, that sort of thing. But bunch of small behavioral things would be the first thing that they would screw up. you know, longer term, you know, there's strategy and org design and a bunch of mistakes that you can make there, but those small things, especially in the first few weeks, are enough to sink you. It's kind of a scary environment to operate in, to be honest. >> You've experienced IC career growth and manager career growth. I'm curious to compare and contrast, you know, IC versus management, I guess, growth paths. What do you think of the differences between the two? And also, I'm curious, do you find that they're both meritocratic? I often hear that there's some, you know, cynical takes on some, you know, one being less meritocratic than the other. So curious your thoughts. >> I think at high levels everything becomes a little bit opaque and fuzzy. Um, one of the things that always kind of like was difficult for me to stomach as a manager sitting in calibrations was very senior level IC's talked a big game about their accomplishments, but I didn't really see the evidence. it wasn't really obvious whether they were just around for these big initiatives that were clearly valuable initiatives or they were instrumental in driving them and the same can be said of managers across the board like that that it it's really hard to do attribution and I think over a long run things are a little bit more obvious like if you have a manager sit in a role for four years and they continue to produce success it's kind of undeniable but on a half to half basis It's pretty dubious. So, I could see why people would feel that way. I think for IC's, especially when you're like sixes, maybe sevens, um it's a little bit more apparent to an external observer whether they're doing that or not. I think for an M1, you can usually look at their team, if you look at it holistically, if you look at some of their deliverables and make a pretty good assessment. But I don't think someone who's outside of their leadership chain or not involved in that minutia would be able to recognize it as clearly at higher levels. I I think that there is there's a bit of unaccountability for a lot of management. Um this is true in the stock market. It's kind of like hard to assess whether you know a leadership team is any good or not. You really don't know until you watch it for a while and then you know somebody might spin up a really great story to say you know it was macroeconomic conditions that sunk my company not you know I failed to actually recognize that my customers were slowly walking away from me. That's true I think at the highest levels. Um, and I think it can be quite frustrating for people who are kind of sitting at a spot of limited visibility with a a group that is really hard to kind of tie directly to any particular deliverable and go this is fair. You you want it to be as fair as you can. Um, but I think at a certain level it is it's difficult to have the data. >> Hey, thanks for watching that clip. If you thought it was interesting, it's part of a longer conversation which you can find right here right now. And as always, if you have any feedback for me, I'd love to hear it. You can leave a comment on YouTube. I read every single one that I get.